Former Health Anxiety Fighter, Life Coach, and here to show you how to free your mind from the mental prison it’s stuck in to live a life where no matter what happens, you can feel in control of your mind and experience inner peace at your fingertips
Knowing how to shift your thoughts when dealing with uncertainty so you can feel safe, is the superpower that will change your life.
In 2013 I lost my father to cancer. Subsequently I was trapped in a spiral of obsessive thoughts, panic attacks, obsessing over my body, fear of dying, fear of being sick, fear of ending up in the hospital, fear of leaving my family behind - to just name a few - which went on for 7 years.
At the age of 29 I hit rock bottom. I started to overdrink (yes, I was using alcohol to numb my feelings) which of course only gave me temporary relief. When the numbness was gone, I was left with more anxiety and more dreadful thoughts and fears. For years my anxiety stopped me from going places that I most enjoyed and from doing things that I used to enjoy.
I didn’t know the person that I had become. I went from being this positive, loving, faithful, trusting in life person, to someone who felt the world had nothing to offer but pain.
That was the moment I told myself “I need to get back to ME” and “I need to take back control of my mind”. The moment I became obsessed about learning more about neuroplasticity, how I can change my thinking patterns and my neural pathways. Basically, I REALLY just wanted to stop catastrophizing all the time.
Even though I ended up with a lot of tools and resources to help me out, my health anxiety was no longer present on a daily basis, I was starting to live my life again, there was a deep voice within me that still felt UNSAFE.
It felt like a part of myself was always taking over every time I felt triggered and I just didn’t know, even with the multitude of tools I had, how to really feel safe through uncertainty.
That’s when I got into more digging and learned about Internal Family Systems and Somatic Experiencing Therapy which helped me connect with this part of myself that was missing a solid foundation of feeling safe.
Every time I used the tools I shared with Ralu today, the me in the present understood I was safe. But the younger version of myself, the one that still felt unsafe, showed up when I was triggered, feeling chaotic and out of control.
You see, it’s not about having a multitude of tools and applying them on the version of ourselves that we are today, but mastering 2-3 tools that help us rebuild a foundation of safety with our traumatized self, the one that uses health anxiety as a protective mechanism
That’s why I created
✨ To provide you with tools that will help you heal your body
✨ To teach you simple strategies that will change the way you think forever
✨ To help you become a master at controlling your mind and feeling safe through uncertainty
Achievements I’m proud of
✔️ Helped over 1000 women to shift from fear to trust
✔️Seeing those women now helping others and changing lives—many have become health anxiety coaches, while others support people with Alzheimer’s, the very challenge that once fueled their own health anxiety
✔️Seeing my clients follow their purpose and actually live
✔️Seeing how their kids, raised with more consciousness, have the freedom to be themselves without the constant 'no' from an anxious parent
No one focuses on building a safety foundation through the tools they teach…
When I started in 2020 to teach health anxiety fighters how to feel safe by taking control of their mind I learned that conventional therapy made no sense for most of my clients when dealing with catastrophizing death thoughts.
It combined too many generic strategies that did not address the underlying fear of the unknown or the inner Part that was screaming to be heard and seen. Or they did not offer any specific strategies that could be implemented ASAP in my client’s life to see quick improvements in how they feel and think.
I knew this wasn’t going to work for someone who has been dealing with health anxiety for years and who had created these catastrophic patterns of thinking. They needed tools that are simple and quick to use BUT that would make them feel SAFE.
By reducing the strategies down to a minimum that target specific needs health anxiety fighters have, getting out of a spiral or a worst case scenario, catching thoughts before they turn into overthinking or once they get out of the autopilot thinking, reframing their thoughts to build different neural pathways. All of the tools were designed in such a way to help health anxiety fighters fulfill the need for certainty or in other words to feel safe when dealing with the unknown.
Since its conception, the Mind Gym Course has helped hundreds of women take back control of their mind, feel like themselves again and feel safe through uncertainty no matter what life brings.
I love to dance, especially latino songs, and sing out loud the lyrics
When I was 19 and in the uncertainty of what program should I apply for at Uni, I told my parents that I didn’t want to go to Uni, instead I wanted to become a Party Planner, so I could always have fun and dance
I am a “born teacher”, no matter what I do I always end up teaching others
Besides teaching health anxiety fighters how to take control of their mind, I teach others how to see their mind differently and how to ditch old perceptions that no longer serve them
I am the “go to” person for anything from “where should we eat out, what shampoo should I use….”
Every time one of my friends or family wants to go out, they text me to ask me of a great restaurant I’d recommend. This is the same about skin care products, hair products, business coaches, therapists, hell just saying this makes me think I should start an affiliate program and be paid for all my referencing
My “go-to” creative passion is cooking
Cooking for me is an expression of love towards my own self and the people I cook for. When I cook I get into a high vibe energy where I feel like my body just floats and nothing else matters but what is in front of me. It’s an out of this world experience for me
I love to travel and immerse myself in different cultures, foods, ways of thinking
We travel at least 2-3 times a year and always try to be in different places so we can try new foods, connect with different cultures. It brings in me this happiness and joy to be able to see the world and what the Universe has created.
I love learning new languages
I love talking and speaking to people that come from different backgrounds and cultures. I have an ability to learn languages that’s why I speak 4, Romanian, English, French and Spanish, and if I read I can also understand Italian and Portuguese (harder when it’s fast and they start talking)
I’m a spiritual being
From a young age I always believed in a power greater than myself, but in a way I was never attracted to religion, to the traditions religion brings and everything that unfortunately the human being has destroyed through the means of religion. Later in my life I learned the difference between spirituality and religion and that’s when I found my place. I believe in angels and the Universe. I believe in those being gone, actually being our guides and mentors for us now.
YouTube is kind of my thing